Today I’m exploring the relationship between the emotional guidance system and imagining the object of my desire (over 5000 people visiting Relaxed-and-At-Ease.com a day) happening now.

Towards the end of last week I felt very discouraged as the number of people visiting my site decreased from it’s already still small number. I thought things like…

• It’s not going to work.
• I’ll never make enough money to pay my bills because I can’t attract enough people to the site
• I should just quit. Why try?

Have you ever felt that way?

Using the Law of Attraction and the Emotional Guidance System…

Then I remembered… I must be facing upstream because I feel miserable….

If I’m “facing upstream” then what I’m thinking, saying, and doing is NOT what my Higher Self and All-That-Is wants.

So I asked myself if I don’t really want to fail… what do I really want?

What I really want is for over 5000 people a day to visit the site, for my online business to grow, and that through my websites (I’m going to create 1 or 2 more) I build relationships with thousands of people around the globe.

If you know anything about manifestation, you know that in order for the Law of Attraction to work you need to act and feel as if it – what ever you are manifesting – is happening now.

So I got a little confused for a few minutes. When I hold the thought “there are over 5000 people a day visiting Relaxed-and-At-Ease.com” and feel myself pointed in that direction I feel great – joyful, hopeful, happy, motivated and connected to all of those people..

When I say it and imagine it happening today I either feel…

• overwhelmed because – how will I deal with all of those people?
• hopeless because – it’s so far away and I can’t imagine it happening and what will I do to support myself in the meantime.
• like cognitive dissonance (you can read about it on this page) is starting to work on me

Abraham (from Abraham-Hicks) tells us to enjoy the ride… We’re not here to manifest our desires and be done with it… We’re here to enjoy the process of co-creation and flowing downstream…

So I’m trusting that as long as I feel great – joyful, hopeful, happy, motivated and connected to all of those people, I will attract people to the website… and some of these people will buy my CD or mp3 – Time to Breathe and Relax: Guided Meditation and Relaxation Exercises.

So… Thank you All-That-Is for helping me remember the truth and for guiding me on the path of sharing with others what I know.

Thank you for inviting all of us to wake up to our Divine Nature and bring it forth onto this planet with the practice of embodied consciousness.

I’ve been a low mood all day – concerned about money and doubtful that my plans to sell products on-line is going to work.  I’ve tried reminding myself that I can know – based on the emotional guidance system – that my thoughts were pointing me away from what I really want… (so I guess that means that I really want to make money selling products!) but it didn’t help much today.

In case you forgot… we are in a river that is flowing one way – downstream – and this river is always taking us to what we really want. When our thoughts or actions point us upstream, we feel “negative emotions.” Like today – I felt hopeless and depressed. When our thoughts, words, and actions are pointed downstream, we feel “positive emotions.” The practice of shifting our vibration is noticing when we don’t feel joy, love, empowerment, peace, and any other positive emotion and shifting our thoughts, words, or actions to align with moving downstream towards what we really want.

This evening I took some time to review several of my pages on my new website... and discovered that I LOVE a lot of what I've written. I especially enjoyed my page about life purpose.

So...

My hopelessness hasn't completely lifted yet...

But my inner sense of confidence has risen. I think a lot of what I've written could be useful to lots of people.

I think I'll keep going with it. I know if I do the likelihood of success is great... and if I quit, it's zero. And I really enjoy writing... I hope others enjoy what I have to say.

I’m ready to break free of all the ways I keep doing the same thing over and over again.

Writing articles for my new web page Relaxed-and-At-Ease.com, has motivated me to identify – and break – all of my habits that keep stress around.

I intend to break each one… One at a time.

Our vibration is determined by what we think, feel, say, and do.   What becomes manifest is based on our most consistent vibrations… which – if we’re not present – is generated by our habits.

In the past, I’ve shifted my habitual negative emotions of hopelessness, despair, and insecurity by doing inner healing work.   Now I usually feel positive – excited, joyful, and loving.

I’ve learned how to intentionally change my thinking habits with the help of my emotional guidance system…

…I notice when I start to feel bad… then I identify what I’ve been thinking or talking about… and remember that I don’t want it (since I feel bad)…

Then I identify and affirm what I do want.

So now it’s time for me to stop  doing the things that keep me out of alignment with the Divine and keep stress around.  Like…

• Drinking diet coke
• Eating poorly because of poor planning
• Keeping others at a distance
• Having a messy and cluttered home
• Working instead of meditating, walking, spending time in nature , or taking care of myself

So how do we break a habit?  How can I break my habits?

Habits form neural grooves whether they’re habitual thoughts and worries or things we do. Read here about how they keep us stuck.

To break a habit… we need to be very intentional.

I was on vacation last week.  I decided ahead of time that I wanted to not drink diet coke for the week and instead drink water with lemon  juice – because lemon juice helps us detox.

To break a habit… it’s helpful to vision life without the habit.

When we use visualization ahead of time, we can imagine what’s going to be tough and figure out what to do about it – so it doesn’t stop us.

To break a habit… we may need to stop doing any associated behavior…

This is any thing we do that we associate with the habit  – like I go for drives when I drink diet coke… If I don’t go for a drive, I’m less likely going to want to drink one.

And probably MOST Importantly…

To break a  habit… we need to know WHY we want to break it…

And that reason has to be more important to us than what we like about the habit.

While on my vacation, I was diet coke free for six days!!!

I think the reasons I could do this were…

1. I had thought about it ahead of time and visioned it.
2. I planned what to eat for breakfast, lunch, and several dinners.
3. The flow of my days was not what I usually do when I’m at home.
4. I didn’t have a car – and I usually drink diet coke while going for a drive.
5. I am tired of feeling icky from diet coke and poor nutrition.

Now that I’m back – I’ve been home for two days – and I’ve had 3 large diet cokes.  And even though I enjoyed them while I was drinking them… I think it’s time for me to be diet coke free.

I’d like to be diet coke free for one month… Until September 9, 2009.

As I write this, my first thought is… What about breakfast? I’m in the habit of going to McDonalds – now you know all of my secrets! – and getting an egg and cheese biscuit and diet coke… every morning.

To do something else for breakfast, I’ll have to go to the grocery store because I don’t have much food at home… and it would be really great if I planned a few meals for the week first and had a list… and that means doing something other than work…

So maybe you can see my challenge… I will have to change several behaviors to be able to change one of the behaviors.

So maybe… I should start with planning meals and snacks with the intention of being diet coke free.  So…

I intend to take about thirty minutes tonight to plan meals for this week (including breakfast) and take about thirty minutes to go to the grocery store to buy what I need for the week.  I see myself doing this between 8 and 9… after I’ve gone home and relaxed for a little bit.

I’ve decided to use this blog to record how this goes.

I will write my plans on how to break free from each of my habits and my experience as I implement these plans – including my successes and struggles.

I’m doing this publicly for two reasons -

• I think it will be fun to write in my blog often about this.
• I’m hoping it will help others… because when I’ve heard about other people’s challenges, I’ve felt more normal.
• I’m hoping it will educate and motivate other people who want to break their habits.

I’m doing it for myself because I want to…

• Feel better – I’m sick of feeling stiff, bloated, and weak… and I want to feel healthy, strong, and limber.
• Reduce my stress – I don’t want to die from the impact of stress on my body – and while I’m here, I don’t want to feel tense, uptight, worried, stressed, or icky in any way.
• Align with the Divine.

May every word I speak, every action I take, and every thought I have be aligned with my True Nature.

This morning I had a little conversation with myself… I started by checking in with myself.   I asked myself, “How are you feeling?”

I replied, “I’m feeling kind of anxious and kind of hopeless.”

So then I said to myself, “Kathryn, if you’re feeling anxious and hopeless, you’re moving away from what you really want.  What have you been thinking about?”

I said back to myself, “I’ve been thinking that maybe growing visitors to my new website – www.Relaxed-and-At-Ease.com – is going to be a lot harder than I thought.”

And I realized that I was feeling a VERY old feeling – I felt not wanted.

So – I put on my I know how to Shift My Vibration hat!

And I asked myself, “If you don’t want to feel hopeless and anxious about people not visiting your new site… What do you want?”

I said back to myself, “I want to easily attract visitors to my site. I want my site to shine with Radiance and be magnetic to the people who will find it useful….

And this means that it is magnetic, well designed, attractive, full of useful and understandable content, appreciated by many practitioners who refer their clients to it, it feels wonderful to everyone who visits it, and it vibrates with abundance.

So… as I said all of this, I began to feel better and better.  My concerns fell away. I aligned with my new, downstream, good feeling vibration.

And I am so grateful to all the people who have visited my new website already. And I am so grateful to all of the wonderful people who created other sites I have linked to. And I am so grateful to all the people who are going to link my site to theirs.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

I choose Joy because I love so deeply and profoundly that my heart breaks open in every moment…  Because I am love and my nature is love.

I choose Joy because.  Just because.  And Joy points me in the direction of evolving flow and  the river sweeps me downstream.

I choose Joy.

There are two types of vibrational shifts: one is a shift from “negativity” to “positivity” and the other is a shift from duality to oneness (or from ego to Essence).

The shift from “negativity” to “positivity” can transform the types of experiences that show up in our lives.  When we shift from putting attention on, talking about, and expecting the “bad” things in life such as mean people, bad traffic, the poor economy, war, rudeness, and so on and we focus instead on the “good” things in life such as kind gestures, new clients, good health, and beautiful weather, then wonderful changes in our physical, emotional, and financial health can take place.

However, this is not the only shift that we are being asked to make at this time in our evolution.  We are also being asked to make a shift from a duality consciousness that experiences each of us as separate beings to a Oneness consciousness that knows we are all of the Oneness (all people, animals, plants, stars, planets, atoms, thoughts, feelings, etc. are of All-That-Is).

I have been blessed with many moments of Presence and Oneness.  For this I am enormously grateful.  When I shift into this consciousness, I feel peace, love, wonder and a feeling of “at home in the world” so complete that I know nothing is wrong and that I am, and we all are, completely loved, wanted, and part of something so vast that my conscious mind cannot fully fathom it.

When I shift into this Oneness consciousness, this is when “my prayers” are answered quickly and easily… and it is also when I let go of trying to control the outcome.

I realized today that I had been thinking that the second shift (from ego to Essence) is better than the first one (from “negativity” to “positivity”).  Upon recognizing this judgment, I thought what if they are just different types of shifts.

It seems to me that the shift from “negativity” to “positivity” is a horizontal shift – sort of like going from one side of a building to another.  The view would be different – on one side the view might be of garbage and on the other side the view might be of beautiful gardens.  Whereas, the shift from ego to Essence is a vertical one – in the same building it’s the difference between being on the first floor going back and forth between the garbage and the gardens (eg0) and being in an airplane above the building and being able to see in all directions for miles – including the garbage and gardens below and on both sides of the building (Essence).

What if the first shift helps us develop flexibility in our psychic structure and it is this flexibility that helps us more easily unlock our habit of perceiving separation.  What if the only “bad” thing about the first shift is if we get stuck in it… if we think “positivity” is the goal and we don’t look beyond it?

This post was inspired by a talk by Rev. Jenna Wexler at Pathways: Center for Spiritual Living in Columbia, Maryland.

May I slow down and breathe fully and consciously now and throughout this day.  May I be present in this body, in this room, aware of the sounds, aware of the aliveness flowing through this body, this planet, this Universe.

This morning I noticed that I was feeling sort of tense and pressured.   I thought, “What’s wrong with you Kathryn? You’re a “Shifting My Vibration expert” – you shouldn’t be in a bad mood.”

And then I remembered (AGAIN) that not being in a great mood doesn’t mean anything is wrong it just means that my thoughts, words, actions, and how I’m doing what I’m doing are pointed away from  what I REALLY want.

So I asked myself what am I thinking?  I realized that I had been thinking that birthing the Shifting My Vibration (on-line) audio course would be hard.

I could feel the tension in my body attached to this way of doing things and recognized it as a habitual attitude I have had when working on any big project: writing a paper in school (years ago!); creating a business plan; or planning an event for example.

Once I realized that I had UNCONSCIOUSLY activated an old thought/feeling/action pattern, I invited myself to create some new conscious intentions about this process:

• I intend that the birthing of the Shifting My Vibration course happens with ease, joy, love, and aligned support.
• I intend for the process of letting people know about the Shifting My Vibration course to be easy, fun, joyful, and very effective.
• I intend to easily, consistently and swiftly “flow downstream” through this whole process – (I release any attachments to beliefs or ways of beings that would limit this.) and remind myself to breathe, relax, and enjoy the moment throughout the journey.
• I intend to trust the process (and not try to control it.)

Have you ever made a shift like this?  Share your experience so that we may all be inspired.

May I remember that I am of this abundant, infinite universe.  May I remember that we are all one.  May I remember that we are co-creating this life including the Shifting My Vibration program – that it is not “my” program, rather it is coming through me because I am not separate from All-That-Is.  We are one.  Any thoughts that I have  are of That.  May I remember that I am a unique and important part of the Oneness – as we all are.  May I remember that what wants to come through me is just as important as the trees, the stars, the planets, and all the babies everywhere.  May I be willing to listen to the Highest calling in every moment.  May I access willingness and just do what needs and wants to be done without resistance or complaint, confusion or despair.

May we easily and effortlessly co-create the Shifting My Vibration program or something even better.  Guides, Buddhas, Bodhisattvas, Angels, and the One that we all are, please guide me in releasing any resistances that I have that I may be fully in the flowing river of life moving with the current of  love, harmony, empowerment, wisdom, right action, and joy.

Thank you